5  Ways Girls Test a Guy to See How “Desperate” or “Needy” He Acts 

By Bobby Rio & Rob Judge
Creators of:  The Scrambler

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  1. aaron
    3 years ago

    holy shit… so true. Never thought about it that way, but the girls i got the most obsessed with were the ones that used to drive me crazy with hot and cold behavior. Like they were toying with me. And I knew it, but couldn’t help myself.


  2. rick d
    3 years ago

    good stuff guys. definitely agree with what you’ve said. And had a big “aha” listening to you explain the process of falling in love. gonna test this stuff out


  3. jake
    3 years ago

    SPOT ON!


  4. Ghostrider
    3 years ago

    Haha! Yup, too available fucked me over before I could fuck her all too often back in the day.
    But it taught me a valuable lesson. Women like a man with a purpose, with a passion. Now that I have SOOO much going on, I’m naturally too busy, with higher priorities, and don’t have to pretend!
    Cool shit dudes! Great advice. Learned soooo much from you both 🙂


  5. Fozzy
    3 years ago

    goddamnit. if i had seen this fucking video like one and a half months earlier i would have been fine. UGHHHHHHHHH. but thanks for the awesome perspective. much love for the great advice.


  6. SF
    3 years ago

    I am late 50s. Been around the block many times. Dated a lot of women. These two guys are right on target.

    It is sad though that these types of strategies are necessary to date successfully and that you have to play all these idiotic games with women.


  7. Karl Yegurvich
    3 years ago

    Sadly this stuff is very true. Girls really love to play these mind games. A girl I really liked before used to not really pay me much mind when I used to try to text her a lot. So I got aggravated and lost intrest, and started to talk to her less and only see her whenever I had nothing to do at all during the day. This drove her nuts towards me and wants to get involved in almost everything I do now.


  8. Jenna
    3 years ago

    I am a girl and I can conclude that this is entirely true. I never thought about it like that before but that is definitely what happens.


  9. Mark H
    3 years ago

    Such Great advice. Wish I had known this secret a long long tiome ago. Thanks guys.


  10. Jonathan
    3 years ago

    I am 41 and I was never taught this. No wonder I have not found her.


  11. Jerome
    3 years ago

    My mind is blown. I understand a lot more now. I liked playing my cards right. and was always the nice guy with my previous girl friends. Now i know why they didn’t stick around. I gave them to much of myself. Next time i’ll play my cards differently. Put her to the test.


  12. Jon
    3 years ago

    OMG this is SO true. I didnt even realize this till now but this has been the case for all my relationships.


  13. greg
    3 years ago

    great stuff.


  14. mike
    3 years ago

    good stuff


  15. eddie
    3 years ago

    this is good stuff


  16. Big D
    3 years ago

    Good points for sure…and to take it to another level…(and maybe they mentioned this and i missed it)…the more confident and “attractive” the woman is the more conscientious you have to be of this…if she is the kind of girl that is ALWAYS getting a ton of attention you don’t want to get in with all the other guys who are all fighting for her attention…you just want to bait her up…then make her pursue you…just like they were saying…


  17. colin byrne
    3 years ago

    Sounds great. Confirms a lot of what I’ve expected. Eager to learn more guys.


  18. Jay
    3 years ago

    Cheers for the tips guys


  19. Simseth
    3 years ago

    when a girls says Im not gonna hook up with you tonight, just smile and says something like wow get your mind out the gutter I just wanted to kiss you. Then use the kiss to transition so foreplay to get her in the mood for sex.


  20. Dave
    3 years ago

    “I’m not going to hook up with you/sleep with you tonight” has always been my favorite thing to hear on a date. I’ve heard that countless times and I’ve slept with every girl who’s ever said it to me.


  21. Brian
    3 years ago

    When we push her away it creates an empty space between us and her that draws her toward us, like a magnet. The more you say no to a woman, the more she’ll want in. We pursue that which retreats from us, after all.


  22. Jose Cespedes
    2 years ago

    I liked this girl in a bagel cafe…I told you the story, I saw her by the mall where I work, asked where have I been….I returned today, she was too busy or don’t want nothing to do with me anymore. I don’t want to appear needy to her block wall, I blocked her from my Facebook page. A girl at the mall which I broke the ice by getting her a water and the other day I stopped by briefly she was dialoging fresh with me, meaning a cool open ending, later when I was leaving she said goodbye and to have a nice night, I guess she is something worth having, though we don’t know each other, I’ll get to see her next week, she works the kiosk booth in the mall, in front of my work place…how cool is that!!!! I think she thinks I am a sales associate….that day I decided to clean the store’s mirrors, I noticed she wasn’t busy…I think she noticed without a doubt. She was being hit on too before that, she’s quite slim, but cute and friendly. I know how to proceed.


  23. Stan
    2 years ago

    makes sense


  24. Terry Seaton
    2 years ago

    I’m 64 and not looking, but the thing I noticed about this video is that the presenters are talking about girls and boys, not women and men. That is the problem after high school, some people remain girls and boys. My advice is grow up and stop playing games.


  25. John
    2 years ago

    Good imfo,girls do this all the time to me, aahhhaa sense, now i know . I can have more fun with this..with girls.


  26. Jake
    2 years ago

    Sweeet!


  27. Joni
    2 years ago

    Stay cool, be confident, be prepared for anything, and go with the flow.


  28. danny
    2 years ago

    ha……..pretty cool stuff! Been there and i have done this!


  29. EM
    2 years ago

    Terry Seaton, things aren’t the way they used to be…us men have to catch up with these girls – and nearly all are girls – not mature women. We have no choice.

    Good video & advice.


  30. Bernd
    2 years ago

    Opened my eyes.


  31. JEFF BRINKLEY
    2 years ago

    very cool


  32. John
    2 years ago

    I see…Now I know how to get the girl of my dreams 🙂


  33. jasonlyle
    2 years ago

    The problem is, I feel girls are over analyzing everything. If we wanna talk about being “real”, then why have these “tests”? why do they have the liberty to validate guys? why can’t it be the other way round? I mean why have it at all to begin with?

    Girls wanna test us to see if we’re who we are, yet we struggle in understand why it’s so hard to get into a relationship. Think about it for a second, just forget about the tests and find out about each other throughout the journey, instead of using methods to siphon out characteristics which aren’t necessarily true at the moment in time.


  34. gary
    1 year ago

    I’m 56 and this happens to me all the time even now ,I’m looking for the one but its the ones I want the least are the ones wanting me ,the ones I’m trying to get closer to , to see where its going to go are doing just what you say ,and then theres ,one I know want more but I just cant find my way to give in


  35. Rick
    1 year ago

    Wish I had seen this before I met this girl.


  36. admin
    1 year ago

    so true


  37. xavier
    1 year ago

    Great! I’m going to start being an “A-hole” no more mr. nice guy, thanks guy’s!!!


  38. JayboB
    9 months ago

    While, I still think it’s stupid that ‘women date assholes’ this was the first really good explanation of why.


  39. Sexless
    4 months ago

    A woman will only “test” you if she’s physically attracted to you. If she’s not interested, it’s game over. I’m 56, still a virgin, and never had a girlfriend. Women have never been attracted to me despite my best efforts. I’ve flirted, tried dating sites, and read many books on the subject. I’ve never been “validated” in a sexual way. I’m always told what “great guy” I am by women, but that’s a one-way trip to the Friend Zone. If you don’t have looks, money, or status, you’re out of luck.


  40. Brad
    4 months ago

    What gives? Why are men here and abroad avoiding the altar in spades?

    1. Because they can: Men used to marry to have sex and a family. They married for love, too, but they had to marry the girl before taking her to bed, or at least work really, really hard to wear her down. Those days are gone.

    When more women make themselves sexually available, the pool of marriageable men diminishes. “In a world where women do not say no, the man is never forced to settle down and make serious choices,” writes George Gilder, author of “Men and Marriage.”

    Scoff if you wish. Call me a fuddy-duddy. But how’s that new plan working out?

    2. Because there’s nothing in it for them: What exactly does marriage offer men today? “Men know there’s a good chance they’ll lose their friends, their respect, their space, their sex life, their money and — if it all goes wrong — their family,” says Helen Smith, Ph.D., author of “Men on Strike.” “They don’t want to enter into a legal contract with someone who could effectively take half their savings, pension and property when the honeymoon period is over.Men aren’t wimping out by staying unmarried or being commitment phobes. They’re being smart.”


  41. Dude Love
    4 months ago

    These dweebs are clueless – they care too much what women think and do. Grow a pair and live your life…do your thing and if she plays games ditch her.


  42. Daniel J. Schwarzhoff
    3 months ago

    Nice work. Also, girls are attracted to “bad boys” not because they are bad. The bad things they do still sucks and causes girls grief being self-centered, cruel and irresponsible – not exactly a dreamboat. Yet girls (a certain type) are still mysteriously drawn to the “rat” because they sense an underlying element in the bad boy’s nature that is so compelling, they cannot resist the challenge – taking him for test drive, so to speak – to see if he’s worthy. That underlying aspect in their makeup makes giving themselves over to him worth it. The cruel behavior and attitude is just incidental, but they overlook it all, just to see if they can uncover and then exploit the single, underlying element. Most times their instincts are correct.

    Here is the element: “Bad Boys” are compensated momma’s boys, who hate their mothers and will worship the ground that all females walk on just to get sex from them. They’re obsessed with sexuality and getting sex (a porn/masturbation obsession too) and consequently, easily controlled by any girl willing to hand over the goods. That weakness, then over-sensitivity for females, is what draws the girls to the bad boys. They cannot help it. Like flies to dung.

    Bad boys are actually weak boys, ready to serve, with their money and attention, any girl willing to make him feel like whole by giving herself over to him. She cannot help but do it. Yes, it’s true, the bad boys get bad girls, even those pretended to be good. Hope that’s helpful.