3 “Nice Guy” Mistakes That Lead to the Friend Zone…

By Bobby Rio & Rob Judge
Creators of: The Scrambler

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  1. arnold
    5 years ago

    haha i got fooled by John Cusak movies too. thanks for the video guys.

  2. TOM
    5 years ago

    These guys are like mad scientisits of the seduction scene, I love video like this. I agree so much about what the Bobby says about sending flower to a girl employer, I did it once and it was so bad for me that I was embarrassed and didnt want to see her again.

  3. Braddy
    5 years ago

    THANKS GUY! I got the Unlock course yesterday and am reading about the scrambler, great stuff so far!

  4. Justin
    5 years ago

    Haha! Yup, too available fucked me over before I could fuck her all too often back in the day.
    But it taught me a valuable lesson. Women like a man with a purpose, with a passion. Now that I have SOOO much going on, I’m naturally too busy, with higher priorities, and don’t have to pretend!
    Cool shit dudes! Great advice. Learned soooo much from you both 🙂

  5. Chris
    5 years ago

    This video needs to be archived for eternity, so us dudes can come back and watch from time to time to commit these words of wisdom to memory. Superb advice! Right on every level.

  6. Matt
    5 years ago

    Wish I had watched this a year ago when I made all of the above mistakes and turned the love of my life into the one that got away.

  7. jesus
    5 years ago

    yes no doubt about the girl does not need to know your naked feelings
    or all the love you are feeling for her ‘ i
    instead i enjoy bringing them down theirs pedestal ‘ .
    some how. in a challenging way , .. but that,s my personal op every girl is different .

  8. John
    5 years ago

    Another great video. These should be obvious things us guys should know to avoid but we constantly do them. I’m guilty of showing my feelings to soon. Thanks to Bobby and Rob for bring these and many, many other valuable pieces of info to us.

  9. Strenue
    5 years ago

    John Cusack. Who is that sad guy? Oh wait, me…thanks guys!

  10. John Donohue
    5 years ago

    I have never commented before but this time I will.
    You made a very smart decision to tell us that your video was 10 mins long. THAT IS THE ONLY REASON I WATCHED IT. I will NOT watch videos of indeterminate length. I am too busy and paid way too much an hour to do so. Please tell Josh Pelicur or whatever his name is as this is KEY to getting your content viewed in our instant Internet society. This is my ONLY reason for sending this email, but I’ll continue as these electrons are free.
    I boil your message down to ‘treat ‘em like shit’ (more or less) and my very hot, God’s gift to mankind, Wonderful human being, best person in the world step-daughter could not agree more when I tell my son this lesson of life. I am 60 years old and I’ve been thru the mill and around it. Whether you like my “boiled down” assessment of what works or not is OK by me. MY MESSAGE is don’t bother posting videos that don’t say how long they are: only an idiot will watch them. Hopefully, that is not your target audience.
    I do think it’s OK to send your wife flowers at work, but she better be at least your wife. I never sent flowers to any girl at work, not even my ex-wife, but I have hand delivered them to several including her, always with excellent results ‘cuz, hey, girls like flowers.
    I think that continuing to say how long your videos are will get them watched and congratulations on realizing this fact. – JD

  11. JC
    5 years ago

    Wow, wow, wow. Done all of the three. Great info guys. After all these mistake have been done, can this be turned around

  12. Robert
    5 years ago

    This was a very useful information,thanks dude, all of your videos really helps me

  13. Lord Julius
    5 years ago

    I got a girl coming over right now, when not even two days ago she was like I hate you, I didn’t give her the attention she wanted when she throw a tantrum. Now she’s like I’m sorry I make it up to you and cook you dinner and be the dessert! Winning!!! Great stuff!

  14. Reid
    5 years ago

    Now that I think about it I have been making a lot of those mistakes, no wonder things haven’t worked out as I’d hoped lately. Thanks for explaining why it doesn’t work.

  15. Randy
    5 years ago

    I have committed all three of these with almost every woman I have wanted. Well needless to say I am still single. Great video. I just didn’t now any better.

  16. Jacob Reehl
    5 years ago

    Great info guys! I have a girlfriend but still, it is best not to make these mistakes even if you do. Looking forward to more videos!

  17. Chris
    5 years ago

    Thanks guys. This is good stuff. I actually have done the whole flower deal and you guys are correct…it gets you nowhere. Also being too available and all that stuff… I’m actually working on that now. I feel like I need to be more unavailable but it’s a working progress.

  18. Erich
    5 years ago

    Right on guys! Definitely making a lot of sense and I’ve made these mistakes for sure, toxic stuff!

  19. El Capitain
    5 years ago

    Bobby Rio and Rob Judge: Excellent video. Very informative, and oh so very true!!! I wish I knew this many many years ago….. To be honest many years ago, I made the “mistakes” of stopping by her work and bringing a flower, sending flowers to another’s work, and even picking a bunch in a park, for another…. No, I did NOT sneak into a cemetery and steal them off of a grave. Lol.
    I even did this a 4th time because this one chick from some eastern European country, forgot her name, insisted that she “loves romance”… LMAO. Each one of these broads were different, but all were at least 7′s or 8s (Above average looking). The outcome? Each one of them stopped texting me within 24 hrs. Before the flowers? constantly…… I am a great looking guy, with a ton of confidence, but that one simple action DESTROYED any sexual desire these women had for me.
    Even women whom I had been with sexually.. For example: I decided to have a few drinks and boom, told her my feelings, as I figured she had “earned the right” to know after awhile”… Once again, her, “Chasing the prize” went to “Avoiding at all costs”… immediately after telling her that “Yeah I like you, and you seem like a keeper.”
    I can understand that if you have been with a chick for many years in a long term gig, or a marriage, and it’s her birthday or Valentines day, ok fine.. A girl finding you attractive is not going to happen by you being a pushover and a “nice boy” Take that programming that mama taught you and FORGET it!! Especially if she is “above average” looking.
    ***** FYI : To the poster John Donohue : You should get your facts straight, on what you are talking about. Most of what you said is complete nonsense. I lol when I read your comments. You’re 60, and you still do not understand these concepts? This video should be your reality check toots. Yes I called you toots. I guarantee that if you would have played it cool, and not given your power away to women, they would have still been interested in you… Unless of course, they had the self esteem of a walrus…… Once again, great work to Bobby and Rob.. True facts….

  20. Andrew Gilby
    5 years ago

    Great video. But here are three toxic mistakes when making a video.
    1. get a better bit rate for compression.
    2. Never have music louder then then a character talking.
    3. choose clothing that doesn’t cause aliasing

  21. Allen
    5 years ago

    Wow! Am I ever guilty of all three mistakes.you can bet that I’ll never be caught screwing up like that ever again. Thanks! Who could have known that these natural considerations could kill all that you had worked for.

  22. Mark
    5 years ago

    hey bobby and rob,
    enjoyed your video good info I had already pick up this advice from making small talk sexy. that said this is an easy trap to fall back into. well worth hearing again, vitally important for when you find the one that’s “different” from all the others. thanks keep them coming.

  23. Taz
    5 years ago

    Very good video u guys, but i have to point out something very important though..
    The “Verbal declaration of feelings” is damn bad for ur success indeed, but u guys said “ur feelings are always cheating u”, that’s not entire true, at least for non neediness feelings.
    U see, emotions are contagious as u may know (there are some reference’s from David Tian and his Desire Program, and Mario Luna in his Apocalipsex’s book), so with that said, if u are feeling lust for a girl, all ur verbal (sometimes…but is much better teasing and banter though) and non verbal comunication should reinforce what are u feeling and then that emotion u re feeling is somehow “transfered” to the other person.
    Being very honest with ur feelings and taking action (being congruent) is extremely attractive for girls.
    I think u guys intended to say that whatever u are feeling that doesn’t help u to scalate with a girl, is a toxic mistake, like feeling she is so hot, or she is the one, or that she is girlfriend material, etc…
    Just a minor aclaration, very good video still, i like how honest and humble Bob is in all of his videos and mails (just a compliment ^^).

  24. Uwe Paschek
    5 years ago

    I have to fess up, I have made all three mistakes a few times, but as of today ,its not gonna happen again, I’m learning, thanks Guys, for giving me a different perspective , I feel like I’ve been living in a box of my own creation,Time to beak out, lead the way boys, Ha Ha

  25. Alex
    5 years ago

    Yeh the third reason really is the most important! Dont be to available or it seem you just been waiting for her to text etc lol!

  26. Medman
    5 years ago

    Guily on all three counts. Wish I knew that when I was with THE one that got away.

  27. Per Diemer
    5 years ago

    I agree on most points and I generally love your stuff, but I have to point one thing out. Flowers aren’t always bad. I’ve send flowers to different girl at their work two times with great results, but… we were already dating and there was an occassion – birthdays. They were at that time unsure about my commitment, and those flowers made the right point at the right time. But agreed – I could not have started an affair that way. Flowers for special occasions on the other hand are a good way to consolidate a relationship.

  28. Martin
    5 years ago

    Useful info!

  29. Clayton
    5 years ago

    Hollywood Myths:
    1. Flowers at work – from a “secret admirer”.
    2. Spilling your guts on the first date – to invoke compassion.
    3. Being Mr. Dependable – Mr.Desperate & Needy!!
    It’s like Smoking to CURE Lung Cancer!!
    I’m 46 – I’ve got a 33 year old women chasing after me because I’m NOT sitting on her doorstep like a lost puppy.
    Just so you know – I’m hoping to marry her one day – but I can’t give the game away too quickly.
    And yes – she brought home made cookies to my house last week.
    Thanks Brothers

  30. hdbro
    5 years ago

    classic information … have done all of these with the results you would imagine!

  31. samuel
    5 years ago

    Hey Rio, This is Samuel from New Orleans, I’m commenting because i’m so thankful for the messages, blogs, and videos u get the time to put up on here and that its not a total waste. Haven’t check out your SCRAMBLER just yet but I bet its great. and thanx again!!!

  32. alexander
    5 years ago

    Just a quick comment about your video, You guys hit the target! Excellent and under 11 minutes. Keep up the good work and Thanks. Alex.

  33. Andy
    5 years ago

    Awesome video

  34. Phil
    5 years ago

    “The boyfriend card is the trump card you must keep in your back pocket and NEVER USE!!”
    LOL… Priceless!

  35. EngWelaz
    5 years ago

    cool stuff buddies….cant wait for more

  36. Darius
    5 years ago

    I think if you are in a relationship with a girl then sending her flowers at work will make her melt. At least that’s what’s happened before.

  37. anthony almeida
    5 years ago

    yep, if you’ve been in a relationship with a girl, slept with her multiple times, and have the upper hand in the relationship she’ll love it. But if SHE has the upperhand and you do this. It won’t go over well.

  38. ben
    5 years ago

    what you said it is very true i personaly senn it happen with friends Than you guys your advice is the best

  39. ryan
    5 years ago

    1st one a lie i send flowers to my girl at work and we been together for 7 years now and i still get my girl wet so really you guy know fuck all

  40. Bobby Rio
    5 years ago

    Guy above me,
    Sending your girlfriend of 7 years flowers is perfectly fine. This video is for guys sending flowers to a girl’s work that they’re barely dating.

  41. Curly's wife
    5 years ago

    This has to be one of the most sexist ‘how to’ videos I’ve ever seen

  42. Josh
    5 years ago

    I don’t have a huge problem with the first two, but that last one was a real eye opener. You guys are great, and I can’t wait to hear more from you.

  43. Robert
    5 years ago

    Just realized now what actually has made my last relationship end so tragically: she managed to rip me away from my ideals!
    Thanks, guys!

  44. reegs
    5 years ago

    goddamnit. if i had seen this fucking video like one and a half months earlier i would have been fine. UGHHHHHHHHH. but thanks for the awesome perspective. much love for the great advice.

  45. Tyler
    5 years ago

    HAH. Guys… Stop being such weak people. Gender is completely taken out of this. I feel like if a girl came up to me with this kind of attitude, I would reject her for lack of confidence. Likewise, I would expect any girl to reject me if I had this mindset about me… There is no “us VS them” women are people… men are people… Has it ever occurred to you guys that women are just people that want to be talked to like regular people? I mean, i’m no pick up artist, nor do I claim to be; however, I feel like I have at least had some meaningful relationships based on the fact that we understood each other as people and that we broke up because circumstances didn’t allow or that we were just not right for each other. Stop reading so much into people… Just relax and chill out. I’m still single but I feel like it’s probably a better attitude than being desperate and clingy trying to claim justification by making these videos.

  46. zaviere
    5 years ago

    the only important fact in this video is not showing your feelings too soon, but that isn’t even 100% because I’ve been in a situation where i met a women and we started dating two after we met and it was one of the best relationships I’ve ever had so not all women are like this but these days 85% are which is sad

  47. Brandan
    5 years ago

    I think you’re giving guys the wrong idea about relationships, that it’s a power dynamic that can be thwarted and that you or she can be the one showing up at work with flowers for you or cookies to impress you, etc and that these are “mistakes”. I think one of the main reasons guys don’t get laid is because of videos like this that get inside their heads too much. Maybe you should’ve had some realer advice like, “Be yourself.” Girls like guys who are confident enough to show who they are instead of manufacturing an image to capture beauty. You also shouldn’t be interested in a girl simply for her vagina, nor perpetuate the idea that friendship and sex are isolated components of different types of relationships. Physically intimate and romantic relationships thrive when there is a since of friendship, so your entire philosophy in this video is pathetic. If you really care about someone, you won’t enter their life with ulterior motives. That’s the definition of a creep.

  48. Bobby Rio
    5 years ago

    @Brandan. “Be yourself” is great- IF you’re already getting the girls you want. If just “being yourself” worked, then all guys would already be with their dream girl.
    This is not about ulterior motives. Its about presenting a more attractive version of yourself. Women wear makeup, dress sexy, because they know it attracts guys. So if we know women are attracted to “playing hard to get”… then you’d be an idiot not to do it.

  49. JG
    5 years ago

    Awesome job! very true…thanks for the advice!

  50. Thedude
    5 years ago

    Let me second what John Donohue said about the length of the video. I won’t bother at all with videos of indeterminate length either. I understand those may have boosted conversions when the first started appearing but I’m sure the top of the bell curve has probably been reached on that front. Anyway, good vid.

  51. jermaine
    5 years ago

    this video is alright but all you guys need to grow balls.

  52. Dominic
    5 years ago

    hahaha at first I thought this was some kind of ad so didn’t care much but seems it is really helpful vid…
    it points out 3 mistakes 2 of which I did to a girl I liked and ended up very awkward.
    = ) thanks a lot guys !!!

  53. thomas
    5 years ago

    Lol they ar right just got to play almost hard to get

  54. Guy
    5 years ago

    what a load of crap.
    dress well, be funny.

  55. Yep
    5 years ago

    99.9999999% of the time, people aren’t going to consider dating someone they’re not attracted to before getting to know them. It’s not about being confident, or funny, or successful, or clever, or nice, or hard-to-get. It’s about finding people who are (at least mildly) attracted to you, and showing them an attractive personality to go with that initial physical reaction.

  56. Nick
    5 years ago

    Damnit – is there anyway to rage back from these three mistake?
    I may or may not have made all three of these (fuck).

  57. John
    5 years ago

    Ahaha Oh dear god. You guys are giving terrible advice. What your asking is for men to keep their guard up, so they don’t get hurt. I don’t think this is dating advice for a meaningful relationship. More like advice for getting laid, which gets boooaring. Going to have to let that guard down sometime… Honestly, what’s the worst that can happen? Just a little hurt pride. So you move on and accept yourself. Self actualization is sexier than defense mechanisms.

  58. Jay
    5 years ago

    Amazing suggestions! I can’t believe I found myself guilty of all of those “Don’ts”. Thank you for the video; I really enjoyed it!

  59. Chris
    5 years ago

    I watched this with 12 girls while studying, all 12 girls said you two are fucking retarded and need to find something new to dedicate your time to. I thought you guys were right at first, showed it to them and they immediately said to not listen to a word either one of you said. JUst letting you know what girls THINK.

  60. Bobby Rio
    5 years ago

    To the guy above me Chris..
    DUH… of course girls say “that wouldn’t work on me…”
    All girls say “I want a nice guy”… No girl says “I want a player” But take a look at who most attractive girls date. Here’s some advice dude, NEVER rely on girls for dating advice.

  61. honestlee
    5 years ago

    the flowers at work thing is great advice as far as your first move or whatever. terrible idea to start with something like that
    if you are midway into a serious relationship with someone youre deeply into who’s deeply into you, doing this without any special occasion, just for the heck of it – iS A GREAT IDEA

  62. Tevez
    5 years ago


  63. Johno
    5 years ago

    Wise words of wisdom from two dry vaginas

  64. Nick
    5 years ago

    Hmm, I’ve done all 3, and got the girl anyway. More than once. I think it just depends on the girl. I think #3 is the killer tho, out of all 3 of them.

  65. Gavin
    5 years ago


  66. chris
    5 years ago

    Sup guys, I need all the tips you can give. Sounds like you know a bunch. and I know little. help me out.

  67. mathew
    5 years ago

    ha, nooooooooooooooooooooooobs 🙂

  68. Jeff Rogard
    5 years ago

    I would have appreciated it if the guy on the left took out his mouth guard first…

  69. Bobby Rio
    5 years ago

    Glad everyone is enjoying the vid.

  70. Trololol12
    5 years ago

    Not being ugly LOL helps a lot

  71. Antonio
    5 years ago

    great stuff guys. I’ve made all the mistakes. And paid dearly for them.

  72. alex
    5 years ago

    I used to be scared of women too.
    I would have followed advice like this then.
    Then I did stuff that was hard, physical, required determination and courage, and gained maturity.
    Then I became more confident
    Then things, including women, didn’t scare me anymore.
    Now I have no trouble getting women, including the one every other guy in the room wants.

    So: If you want women, and you rely on advice by “experts” but do not yourself grow-up, you wont get very far with any of them. If you want a woman, but are not a “pick-up artist”, put some effort into it but don’t be act like someone you are not because they will know and resent you for it. Be yourself.

    And yes, in all situations be prepared to be rejected.

    The truth is, every women is different and there are no general rules. You are the constant, not the women. With experience, and confidence, you will learn when to do or not do certain things.Flowers at work is not a bad thing, if she wants you. Grand gestures absolutely work when she needs it. A love poem, or a serious display of vulnerability can bring her back if she responds to it. While some woman won’t respond to lots of attention, some woman need you to be available because they need the assurance.

    You don’t need advice, or direction to be more attractive to women. You need to challenge yourself often and grow confidence. You need to accept the possibility of rejection and try, and learn from successes and mistakes.

  73. Sebastian
    5 years ago

    My mother taught me 3 simple rules.

    1. Be sincere, be yourself.
    2. Treat the girl with respect.
    3. Whats yours will be yours.

    Relationship is like sand. The harder you grab onto it, the more is going to slip out of your hands. Be gentle, but be firm.

    Having said that, I’m from a culture where we generally have the girl as our girlfriend before even thinking about sleeping with them.


  74. Luis
    5 years ago

    This is bullshit. Just be a nice guy.

  75. Bobby Rio
    5 years ago

    LOL, yea just be a nice guy. Let me know how that works out for you 🙂

  76. Jacob
    5 years ago

    I broke rule number 2 🙁 Confessing your feelings too soon, is there ANY way I could get her back or make her re-interested in me?

  77. Matt
    5 years ago

    If a girl likes you it doesn’t matter what you do… you can fart on her….

  78. NotAnIdiot
    5 years ago

    These are stupid mistakes by stupid guys.

    Buying flowers: Buy something for a girl you like instead of spending time with her isn’t going to make her like you more.

    Telling feeling too soon: Not everyone falls in love at first sight. It makes you look desperate.

    Not being available: Women don’t like a guy who texts instantly because it implies he doesn’t do anything with his life. The point is doing something with your life. If you hack websites and have your phone by your side she’ll understand. If you are out at rock climbing event and you text her a lot, she’ll think you are desperate.

    Women are trying to check if you are worth dating.

  79. Nilo
    5 years ago

    This only works on emotionally damaged girls. Also if the girl feels that you are an alpha male she will instantly chase you, even if you do the all red flags they mentioned.

  80. Brian
    5 years ago

    This is the stupidest video ever. These guys are talking about all the women you don’t want to date. This is classic ‘bad guy’ ‘game’ type advice that works on stupid girls and immature girls.

  81. Kal
    5 years ago

    Are these guys in relationships? I can’t believe it if they are.

  82. Mehul
    5 years ago

    thanks guys, I’ve made way too many mistakes just like that.

  83. Josh
    5 years ago

    Just treat them like shit and they will come back. Never treat them them nice, treat like the selfish, seeking-multiple-nuts-when-you-can-only-get-one whore they are.

  84. Stephen Harris
    5 years ago

    I like your attitude. Smart and pragmatic without being sexist.

  85. Matt
    5 years ago

    im 15 years old and im in my freshman year of high school. i know its good that i saw this video now cause i have like 3 more years of high school left. but i wish i saw this earlier cause im so deep in the friend zone and im pretty sure its cause i made those mistakes except for the flowers one

  86. Jonjon
    5 years ago

    the most important thing you need to understand, is that their goddam VAGINA WILL DRY UP

  87. David
    5 years ago

    Totally with you on the mistake of being too available

  88. anon
    5 years ago

    omg its so true. I don’t really do gifts for friends hell even family let alone going out of my way to send a gift/flowers to a girl I’ve just been hanging out with a couple of times. I mean I’m not saying I’m perfect, I’ve made these mistakes too but that’s how I learn and become wiser. So true, compliments when the time I right- giving her the hint through compliments that you like her looks or personality is one thing, showing her that you’re madly in love with her is another. And on the being too available thing- if he has all the time in the world for a girl he’s not even in a serious relationship with yet, he probably isn’t really doing very much with his life. Nothing which turns a woman off more
    than a guy who doesnt have any aims or passion, ie. job or study aspirations or some sort of sport or hobby.

  89. anon
    5 years ago

    and to whoever asked can you turn back with the same girl you made these mistakes with: the harsh reality is no. Its one of those times where the first impression counts. And you’re making another mistake, running after the same girl. Is she the one? Fair enough if you’ve been in a long term relationship and you messed up, wanting to get back together, but when its just physical attraction and just trying things out, move on to the next one and don’t make the same mistakes again. And to whoever said “just be nice”: well that’s the thing, I’m assuming the whole world isn’t full of bad people, anyone can be nice, its about presenting yourself in a way that will spark interest in her. Its a bit like going for a job if you think about it, they can’t just say “he’s a nice guy give him the job” if you didn’t present yourse;f well in your cv, interview etc.

  90. Paw
    5 years ago

    Nekk minnit, she’s the one bringing dinner to my house. Kudos, boys!

  91. Jim
    5 years ago

    I have definitely done the last two. I do want to try the first one just to see if it actually happens. You guys are right though. No matter how many dates I’ve been on I still mess up with the second and third a lot.

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  93. Joe
    5 years ago

    Best advice I can ever give any man that is struggling with women….stop dating Americans. I’m not trying to say that every American women is bad, but when you look at our culture of “replace it instead of fix it” you start to notice that women in my generation (the 20-40 year old bracket) judge relationship success in months, and not years. “I’ve had 3 awesome boyfriends in the last year” really?

    I can only give my own perspective. I’m a generally nice guy, I’m 30, successful but not rich, hard working, faithful, everything it would seem women would want, yet I was lucky if I could keep them around for 2 weeks. If I was the only guy that I knew that had this problem, I would say hey, maybe it is me. I was incredibly frustrated. Tried match, and numerous other dating sites, and just felt the women were disproportionate….only way I can describe it….shes a 7, makes $20,000 a year, her expectation in a man is a 9 that makes $100,000.

    My first experience dating outside of my culture was a Bosnian woman. I had been talking to her for a few days and got up the courage to ask her out to dinner finally, picked her up, and took her out. The first thing I noticed was she was genuinely interested in what I had to say! Most women I had taken out on dates in the last 4 or 5 years couldn’t tell me fast enough how much of a POS their ex was, how much of a deadbeat he was for “only paying $400 a month in child support after they left his ass” or would talk about how much they wanted to be taken care of ect. This woman was genuinely interested in ME. I was open and honest with her, and told her I’m not rich, which she responded ” I don’t care about money, all I care about is that you are a good man, and you treat me well, I’m not afraid to work”. The relationship lasted about a year and a half, until her mother got sick back in her home country and she decided she needed to go back home. We still keep in contact to this day.

    My second experience is with my current girlfriend, who happens to be Russian. We have been together for about 2 years, she is simply amazing. We rarely fight about stupid crap, she treats me like an equal, she can hold an intelligent conversation, shes hard working, and beautiful. I only have 2 experiences with foreign women, but I can tell you for sure how much happier I am. Simply put, American men should expand their options.

  94. Alex
    5 years ago

    Is that just me that sees this as a great match(dot)com ad?

  95. I
    5 years ago

    Sum people have to make more mistakes to get them to stop, using guys in that way.

  96. I
    5 years ago

    Just saiyan at top level walking in with flower on belt, and flower in mouth.
    then reach for the belt and give her something….just saiyan

  97. Joseph
    5 years ago

    Good Video, I have done all three with the last girl I was serious about… worst part is I work with her! Didn’t send her flowers but gave her plenty of things at work, the relationship didn’t end well by any means. Anyways, the guy to comment before me: Joe. I agree with you about broadening the horizon when talking to women. Many of the women that haven’t been “Americanized” seem to be overall more genuine.

  98. BAtmaaaaaaan
    5 years ago

    Yooo guyyss thank u so much !!!!! its soo damn truuuuuuee 🙁

  99. Aglin Dajlanaj
    5 years ago

    Great video guys! Thanks a lot! I am sooo going to use that advice you gave, do not let her know that you want to be her boyfriend, just let her know you wanna bang her. 5 *****!

  100. Squishin
    5 years ago

    As a fan of dating and relationships in general, I can say that I’m glad that I’m not as cynical as this. What you are referring to with these comments (especially the end advertisement for the Scrambler) is playing the “game” with your partner; the invisible power struggle between two people to see who needs the other more. To me, this is not the basis for a healthy relationship. This video misses the mark.
    The points are technically accurate; it is not a good idea to open up too fast, nor go for over-the-top gestures, but I think it is far more important to emphasize plain honesty and openness. You don’t want to force your partner into a position where she or he feels undervalued, overcommitted compared to you, or any of the horrible things that you were feeling before pulling this “game” crap. It’s important to find a person who has the same level of desire, and will relate to you in an equal, open, and honest way.

  101. Squishin
    5 years ago

    By the way, this is speaking as someone who is in a 2 and a 1/2 year long relationship for the first time. Which happened BECAUSE I STOPPED pulling this crap.

  102. Rishi
    5 years ago

    Good lord,
    I already made 2 of the three mistakes and I shall admit to what a wimp I am and anyone who reads this can have a laugh. I actually penned an emotional-from the heart letter to a woman I had known for a few days. She did reply back saying she cried when she read it and then never heard from her. UNTIL….Being the moron I am, I sent flowers to her work! and bear in mind I don’t even know her.

    You guys are right. I am so drunk right now. I am going to buy a hooker and just be content. My sexual urges will be taken care of by prostitutes meanwhile I follow the rules of this video and stop being heart broken

  103. Josh
    5 years ago

    This should be renamed to, “3 Toxic Mistakes That Instantly Kill a Girl’s Interest to having sex with you”. This was all about what to do to get into her pants. The girls youre talking about are the classless sluts you find at the bar or clubs. Nearly all women that actually have standards not only for the guy they want but the relationship itself would drop you guys off their contacts and be those girls that stopped responding because they saw right through your bs and saw youre like every other guy out there. I can say this it total bs when it comes to finding that one in a million girl. Seeing the other movies you guys helped with just proves my point. Its crap like this that gives those few remaining decent guys out there a bad name. Now when I try to talk to a girl, she automatically assumes the first thing I want to do is get in her pants. Since when is lack of communication a good thing in a relationship. Its good to have your own life and get some time to yourself but your whole outlook in a lot of things is kinda jacked up. You make it easier for the trashy guys who try to get with as many girls as they can and find those women who will go home with every guy that makes them laugh look good, but not those last remaining decent guys out there since then they just get the same label as the rest of you. Guys sleep with a girl or two then for some reason believe that every girl out there is a slut who would sleep with them. Do you not realize how many women either dont go out to places like that or end up going to gay bars with other women just because they want a break from guys trying to get with them and for the first time in who knows how long, have a nice relaxing night out without being hit on by 15 different guys. May have got off topic a little but Im just gonna stop there. Was hoping for a lot more from this movie when I clicked on it.

  104. Paul
    5 years ago

    Just make your sure your intentions are clear, an treat them with respect an nicely, just make sure you flirt or they might take it as a friend thing ,an as much as most guys don’t have it always try to be confident its very attractive to a woman. That’s pretty much it but being with someone who’s a friend is amazing you just gotta keep that sexual tension between the two people, when it does get physical don’t have as i call it friend sex because after that you won’t even have a friend.:)

  105. the dude
    5 years ago

    please let my daughter not hook up with a couple fucking lowlifes like these fuckin clowns

  106. Ali
    5 years ago

    Pretty cool advice, like it.

    I especially like the fact you both come across as easy-going guys without a chip on your shoulder, giving the sort of advice that puts women down in order to get what you want from them. There’s a lot of that going around on the net. So it’s refreshing you’re not going down that line.
    Essentially it boils down to three things: Be natural, be cool, don’t put females on a pedestal.

  107. Jacob
    5 years ago

    What does making videos like this do for these wet pussies?

  108. Andrew
    5 years ago

    That video was very helpful. I have noticed i have done two of those 3 things every time. thank you guys

  109. Jacob
    5 years ago

    Watching this video taught me something those 3 mistakes killed me when I was interested in that one person I have alot of work to do

  110. John
    5 years ago

    You want some advice on how to get girls? Be yourself and trust your own instincts….brush your teach after every meal, and get your butt in the gym and make yourself into a machine. And don’t take advice from geeks.

  111. Nick
    5 years ago

    Rule number 1 when it comes to women.. Creepiness level of certain things depends on the attractiveness of the guy. A sub par guy sends her flowers at work, she’s creeped out. A hot guy sends her flowers at work, she brags about it all day. This 1 rule is why these guys have failed miserably..haha

  112. rj
    5 years ago

    this is spot on haha great video

  113. grangoat
    5 years ago

    what is wrong with getting friend zoned? Female friends are always trying to set you up with there friends. So you still end up with a girl.

  114. Jake
    5 years ago

    Great vid. If I had one thing to add it would be the only thing worse than not getting the girl is getting the wrong girl. I was a John Cusak type myself (and in my heart I still am). I ended up with exactly the wrong girl, dated for five years, and I finally filed for divorce after 22 years of marriage. Even in the beginning, deep down, I knew it was wrong but I was gonna make it work. The best thing out of it is my two amazing daughters (stay AWAY, guys). Even our eighth marriage counselor said “you two could not be more wrong for each other” and her job was to keep us together! Anyway–remember. Getting the WRONG girl is worse than not getting the girl. Listen to these guys.

  115. MiMi
    5 years ago

    One of my guy friends posted this on his wall. Sorry if I don’t belong here haha. Any way…. Girl’s don’t like sluts just as much as men hate sluts. And by “Hate sluts” I mean, she can’t be taken seriously. There was one tip in this video? Something about not letting her know you want to be her boyfriend, but allowing her know you want to have sex with her???? Bad move. That doesn’t work on any descent woman who is worth making wife material, because I’m thinking you only want one thing from me, and I will toss you in the same category with any other guy, and probably think you can’t be taken seriously. I mean, you’re no saint and you don’t have to be, but being slutty? Girls don’t like that when we see it. Keep your sex life between you and your partners and don’t go acting perverted or even so much as let of to a girl that yo MAY just want sex from her. Because if she thinks so, following that advice, unless you are just a quick emotional fling who she can date but will never marry, she will not want to take you seriously. And the girl who does get with a guy knowing or thinking that he may just want sex, is probably not taking you seriously and is probably thinking you are just temporary, but most certainly not long term.

  116. Simon
    5 years ago

    Every girl is different……. Alright the flowers thing is true but the rest is isn’t always the case.

  117. Charles
    5 years ago

    These guys don’t know a shit about the subject. If you like a girl be creative and go for it. If you don’t do it some else will.

  118. Sam
    5 years ago

    Fab-est de-facto facts ! Luved the way you blokes put it. Spot on !

  119. John Smith
    5 years ago

    You can’t stress the last point enough!!

  120. negar
    5 years ago

    Really loved the comments. Btw its really pleasing to hear them talking even though I didn’t pay attention to most of it.

  121. Craig
    5 years ago

    i already have the girl wrapped around my finger, but how do i get her to piss off? she won’t leave me the hell alone and even though i don’t say ‘yes’ every time she wants to hang she twists things so that if i say im busy or don’t reply im being an asshole or ‘rude’ how do i let them down easy? i have my own life im trying to live here.

  122. Nyel Huq
    5 years ago

    Great advice, all too true.

  123. Eric
    5 years ago

    3 Tips for making a halfway watchable video:

    1. Be aware of your audio, shouting at the mic and having peaky audio is probably the most off putting thing in any video
    2. Set your white balance so your skin doesn’t look like an irradiated orange
    3. Don’t wear tightly patterned shirts to avoid horrible moire.

    Stay professional boys, keep up the killer production values.

  124. aaron
    5 years ago

    I confess, I almost didn’t watch it after the first couple of minutes; seemed too “treat em mean, keep em keen”. I”m glad I watched it all the way through – some really insightful stuff. Great job, guys!

  125. Justin Strebe
    5 years ago

    It depends on the girl Like the guy on the right said.

  126. awesome
    5 years ago

    hey thanks for vid guys,anymore tips?

  127. Guy
    5 years ago

    I didn’t get her flowers for Valentines Day, she dumped me thanks guys

  128. Ryan
    5 years ago

    It would make more sense for girls to not be bitches, and to just like a guy for who they are. They are literally such cunts that we have to post videos on how to use mind games on them. Sexist, some one said? It’s the sad truth about your gender, sorry.

  129. george
    5 years ago

    info please

  130. Iza
    5 years ago

    You guys are getting it right. you really need to curb the compliments. Actually you should tell her something you don’t like about her, like her shoes. A comment like “Oow.. what are you walking on the Empire State Building?” Make it funny. That’s all I can tell you for now.

  131. O Dog
    5 years ago

    This must not be for girls of color and obviously these guys aren’t true players in the game. I can understand about the confessing your feelings but sending flowers to a girl job isn’t a bad thing unless u don’t know her like that. Being too available is subjective cuz she might call at the right times or give her the impression that she is. no one is ever as available as they make it seem

  132. Edwin
    5 years ago

    Great stuff guys, this is all true. Holding off that boyfriend card for as long as possible was one of my favorite lesser said pieces of advice.

  133. Daniel
    5 years ago

    PLEASE stop using Vimeo, their player is incredibly horrible. It took half an hours attempt to watch this short presentation, and I didn’t even finish it because there was a problem with playback. My internet is fast and computer top-notch, so that isn’t the problem. It may be “hip” to use Vimeo, but there are much, much better video players and you’re losing business because a saint’s patience is required to view your posting.

  134. Rex
    5 years ago

    LOL these guys look like fucking nerds, they wish they could get women.

  135. Lynn
    5 years ago

    Does it work?

  136. robb stark
    5 years ago

    I bought flowers and surprised my girlfriend/co worker with them as we were walking into work. she fucking loved it! said no guy ever gave her flowers. went over amazing. but that was in a long term relationship not dating these dudes got it down pat women really don’t like nice guys. unless they have a nice job/money. and that’s the fucking TRUTH lol

  137. nazish
    5 years ago

    whats the name of a song at the start of the vid? plz @ [email protected]

  138. donnell rouse
    5 years ago

    You guys are telling the truth!!

  139. Spanic28
    5 years ago

    Actually pretty much hit it spot on. And for you girls that disagree with this, Of Course You Will. The guys on here know and have seen with their own eyes that the “Nice Guy” gets friend zoned wheras the elusive, seemingly non-interested guy is the one you’ll go after. And if you still disagree take a look at yourself. Who are you currently with or seeking right now? Ahaaa? Am I saying it can never happen? Nope. Somebody always wins the lottery right? But I wouldn’t bank on it being you. Listening to these guys really opened up my eyes to what I was doing wrong. And man was I!! I’ve got a LOT of girl best friends to prove it to! But now that I put the nice guy away, Sooooo much better!! This is how much fun it was supposed to be like!! I should’ve done this sooner!! Thanks for the dose of reality I needed!

  140. Avinash
    5 years ago

    These guys are freaking awesome!! Wicked advice!!

  141. KBXIII
    5 years ago

    You guys are douche bags….none of these are true…good luck EVER finding a woman. You guys look like 2 losers..LMAO

    Advice to guys watching this video…

    1. Send flowers….it shows your appreciation and interest in her and she feels special(unless she doesn’t like flowers…send candy)
    Guarantee you’ll get laid the same day.

    2. Don’t express your feelings too soon but let her know your exact intentions on dating her…she will respect you more and you’ll both be on the same page.

    3. If you see that there is potential feelings there that are enough to start a relationship with her…EXPRESS it to her and see where she’s at…Again it is important to be on the same page….who knows, maybe she does feel the same way…be a REAL MAN and step up to the plate!!!

    The advice these guys gave are advice of a cowardly man who lacks the sensitivity to even be in a relationship let alone even know how to treat a woman.

    Good Day!

  142. Bobby Rio
    5 years ago


    Ok, keep sending girl’s flowers and candy 🙂

  143. Jack Ryan
    5 years ago

    …Cannot say I have done these things. Not that I am a expert with women, but I suppose I have not needed to do these things. First, flowers at work, only in relationships or if you follow up strong with a call or a visit to ask her out for real. If she rejects you, who cares, at least you took the chance. Just do not continue on giving her attention if she does reject, a) that could be creepy, b) if you do, give her minimal attention, a text or something asking how she is, but space it out. If she does not contact you afterwards or on her own, probably no interest, drop it bro. Second, I have spilled my guts to a woman, just not on the first date, more like the second/third, can’t remember too well, she liked me more after that, but I suppose I was more or less not contacting her all the time. Third, not be the guy who is always available. I suppose do not jump at every opportunity. Look for a good opportunity for you and for her. Have her suggest and do not cancel plans for her, let her know you do have these plans and might be able to get out of them, and let her know. OR, pick a different time. If she is interested in meeting up with you in a romantic or a friend way, then likely she will be willing to make the time to fit in your schedule as well as hers. If you have a completely free schedule, let her know, but don’t agree to anything until you are sure you can be there. At this point, if she doesn’t make it, don’t drop it unless you think no interest, just don’t be as available next time. Either way, just a comment

    Also Bobby Rio,

    Pretty Sure KBXIII is a woman, ie, she is commenting about this video and does not agree.

  144. Mr. cock
    5 years ago

    What a couple of sexist, douchebags

  145. david
    5 years ago

    great advice same thing i would tell my friends

  146. Steve
    5 years ago

    How respectful and dignified to repeatedly express that you want to “bang” the girl you’re going out with. I’m surprised you both don’t have women beating down the door to get to you!

  147. jason
    5 years ago

    lol…just glad to know im not the only male drying vaginas…good info

  148. Brian
    5 years ago

    great stuff. lol. u guys get it.

  149. Rick
    5 years ago

    Good video, makes alot of sense. I have done alot of these mistakes myself. Except for the flowers at work, only did that once for my ex wife. Seems like if you treat em good then they don’t respect that.
    Little story with my last ex girlfriend. I treated her good and from what I gathered from our talks I was the first guy she had been with that never raised a hand to her; anyway a month into dating her we got into a fight and broke it off. The next day she let her douchbag ex move back in with her and sent me a text to rub it in, I responded by telling her that if she wanted to be a white trash piece of shit then go for it. I didn’t say anything else or contact her at all. 3 days later she kicked the douchbag out and was burning up my phone.
    We messed around for about 4 more mos before I finally broke it off for good. She’s engaged to another guy now and still text me 3 or 4 times a day.
    BTW did I mention that I’m 54 and she’s 34?

  150. james
    5 years ago

    wish i saw this like six months ago..

  151. Andy
    5 years ago

    Great job guys i love it getting those tips cause girls are so damn tricky….. LMAO

  152. Allan
    5 years ago

    Awesome advice. I hate the Friend Zone.

  153. matt
    5 years ago

    “She can know you want to bang her , ,but she cant know you want to be her boyfriend”

    Excellent Advice! Ty

  154. Trav
    5 years ago

    True stuff, but I’d go one further- you have to be an @sshole to get anywhere with women these days. Basically, not care at all. Do whatever you want and she bends around it.

    I sent flowers once, I ended up engaged to that chick. The flowers neither hurt nor helped my cause, but guys, save your money. Romantic movies are made for chicks’ alter egos, the ones that are noble, just, and kind. AKA, not how they act in reality.

    Women are a real piece of work…also, don’t spend too much on dinner. I have had girls go out with other dudes on good dates, then they’re worked up and they call. The reality is that perhaps they didn’t want to be seen by the other guy as easy, so they use him for entertainment and a meal and someone else for sex. It’s…well let’s say it doesn’t jibe with any sense you have of romantic idealism, so the best bet is to stop caring about it. You want to be the guy they call or the guy who gets it on the first date; stop being so nice and start being more alpha.

  155. Maroo
    5 years ago

    utter bullshit. It’s all very simple, if she is attracted to you, you can do no wrong (within reason, of course), if she isn’t, you can only do wrong. These three seem like mistakes because they are symptoms of trying too hard for that which ain’t gonna happen anyway.

  156. Jerry L.
    5 years ago

    I am a gay guy and I think this advice applies very much to gay relationships as well. I am still single because I made the same toxic mistakes that these guys warn about.

  157. bhbuob
    5 years ago

    too long

  158. Matt R
    5 years ago

    This is the best advice I’ve ever heard..

  159. Johnny
    5 years ago

    some of the stuff is good but still pretty shallow. You shouldn’t look for girls to sleep with them or to get whatever it is you want. The point if to date to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Maybe the reason there are so many divorces or people can’t find the person they’re supposed to be with is that they’ve practiced doing the exact opposite in their relationships. I’m 22, been in one relationship, still a virgin, and yeah it’s been hard. It’s tough when a girl shows up and your dorm room looking for a good time. It’s tough. But the hardest things are always what are worth it the most. So when I lay that girl down when I marry her i’ve got everything to give to her, i haven’t wasted anytime giving it to anyone else. And I’m pretty proud i’m not out to create a load of emotional baggage for these girls’ husband to carry around. If I can’t see myself with this girl for the long haul, then i’m wasting either my time or hers we could be spending for the one that really matters. I hope that in my next relationship we’ll be acting with enough innocence so that she’ll know my intentions and not be cross checking my relationship experience against some 10 step bullcrap guide in cosmo.

  160. kevin dotson
    4 years ago

    I’m in love with a stripper. Really, I’m 43 and I’m a bouncer, I know better. I also have a college education in Psychology and I am a veteran, the moral is, I’ve been around. The issue is, she has quit stripping and has a job that she is excelling at. She is getting custody of her children in a month and is doing everything possible to turn herself around. I have made every mistake possible when it comes to breaking the ice and moving forward. I am in the ‘FRIEND ZONE” and I know that there is almost no way out of it. Still, while not hounding her, chasing her or obsessing over her, I want to be more. I want this situation to evolve. I don’t want to let this go. Do you have any advice, other than to just give up and move on?